Where criticism comes from ?
Where criticism comes from ?
Five reasons we engage in criticism
Criticism is not a pleasant thing. We want to be correct and understood well. Instead of understanding the dynamics of criticism, we tend to react. In several cultures, criticism is widely seen as a negative thing related to the attack, dislike, and often too personal under evaluation.
Everyone in a leading position will face criticism sooner or later; the difference lies in how we deal with it. Are we reactive, or are we trying to understand it? Do we keep critics far from us? Or do we invite them to the round table to collaborate with them?
Below are listed some of the reasons why people criticize. Sometime people criticize because:
1. They are looking for someone to trust.
This attitude comes from sincere doubt about whether the leader is saying it is true. What are his motives? What does he want to gain through this? What if he's wrong? Such questions, for a leader, should be considered natural. Let time be the one that will convince the followers as the leader includes them when he wins and takes ownership when he fails.
2. They want to be superior.
Leadership may be a game of power. Some people feel empowered and perceive their influence increases when criticizing the leader. This attribute may also be the by-product of a leader's attitude of superiority or a mutual antagonist and criticizing relationship.
3. They are seeking truth.
They are truth seekers. That's why we have art, movie, and other professional critics. This way is what is known differently as healthy criticism.
4. They don't have anything else to do.
Boredom is one of the most common reasons that lead to criticism. People who don't have what to do in life tend to get busy with other people's lives.
5. Their expectations and needs still need to be met.
Often generous followers are benevolent towards their leaders even when they have made a decision that requires a personal sacrifice. Nevertheless, they are benevolent because the manager cares for them. This attitude is one of the most common we encounter. The question of this category is: What have you done for me?
Wise leaders are always aware that people's reactions are usually based on their interests.